Words from my clients.

  • "Nothing could ever compare to the support I’ve received from you, Melissa. When my life felt like it was falling apart, your coaching was an essential part of my weekly routine that allowed me to find answers within myself I so deeply needed. My favourite part of collaborating is how you always find things I never even realised were there. I constantly say, 'That's the first time I've ever said that.' When I think I know everything about myself, something new appears. It's magical. The most significant shift I had was letting go of the simmering anger I felt towards two of the closest people in my life. It just DISSOLVED. I feel deep compassion and love towards those people I didn't allow myself to feel before. Revolutionary. I was surprised that your work was so transformative so quickly. In just a couple of sessions, I had already made breakthroughs that I was expecting to have to work on for years. I highly recommend anyone who has a sense of unease – big or small – in their relationships come to see you IMMEDIATELY. I didn't know I could feel as free as I do right now, and my only regret is not getting coached by you on this sooner. Thank you so much, Melissa!" — S. NSW

  • "I was able to create an entirely different relationship. These tools have gifted me peace. I've been doing 'the work' for years, and while many areas of my life are excellent, romantic relationships have been difficult. That changed in 3 sessions. I instantly recognised patterns and habits and had ways to move past them! These practical tools have been a game-changer for me. They have gifted me a fantastic sense of liberation and peace. For the first time, I can make different choices and truly create the relationship of my dreams. Thank you for helping me recognise and break sticky, unhelpful habits of my past. It has opened my heart." — V, Victoria

  • "Once we were married, I thought we should spend a lot of time together, but we need time apart. We needed to accept that it's not bad. It's not like we don't love one another or like each other anymore. It's just essential for us, and we have recognized that. With your help in understanding our individual needs, our differences, and the needs of the relationship, we have scheduled this and other essential things and made them a priority. When I write it down, this seems simple, but we didn't know what we needed to feel like we once did. I recommend you to anyone feeling in a rut or stuck, not knowing who to turn to. Most people have friends and family they can talk to, but not on a level that's not judgy. I came to you thinking we were doomed, but your process was highly effective, thank you." — A, Auckland

  • "I was really in a downward spiral before we started. I was aware of my negative headspace, but I didn't know how to get out of it. It did what it said on the tin, and I was surprised at how easy it was. It wasn't about trying to get other people on board, either. This process became about me. I thought I would have to talk with people about what I wanted them to do to change, but it was way better than that. Learning these tools means I no longer get carried away in my neurosis, and your process was clean, quick, and clear-guided. Without sounding gushy, my reality is now far better than before." — C, Auckland

  • "I'm so glad I pushed through the process and learned new ways to deal with my emotions. Although it was sometimes uncomfortable, I discovered so much by sitting with it all. I was surprised when I began looking forward to our sessions together. Therapy or counselling has been different from this in the past. It was easy to talk with Melissa. I recommend you to anyone and everyone. Melissa, you have a true gift for connecting with people. This process with you has improved my life, not just my relationship. thank you." — D, Marlborough

  • "I am proud of us. We are in love. I feel about my wife as I did in the beginning. But that was chemistry, and we designed this. I believe the quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives, and my life was horrible. A lot of me was dead. Finding myself in this relationship again completely transformed the quality of my life. Our coaching was the highlight of my week. I loved it. I felt like it every Tuesday. I was so hungry for it. I badly wanted to feel better. You pushed, tested, made it safe, and had no judgment. I was never too uncomfortable. You’ve really changed my life Melissa!" — V, Auckland

  • "I was insecure, unsure and in pieces. I am now confident, secure, and 'manning my ship'. I feel whole, joyful and at peace. My favourite parts were permitting myself to be distinct from my husband. A significant shift was the knowledge that I mattered. I knew I'd be given tools, but the archetypal astrology surprised me and helped me the most to make these changes. Concerning my relationship, when I was more myself, I would attract what was for me without the need to force anything. I learned anything outside me was entirely out of my control, which was ultimately incredibly liberating. I refer you to anyone who feels lost at sea with themselves, in a relationship, but in particular, involving infidelity. That was scary. I thought something was wrong with us; that's what society told me. But we weren't broken. We were woken - our old relationship was over, and we had to design something different. It's been a journey; you were my life ring, thank you." — J, Auckland

  • "My favourite part of coaching with Melissa was unleashing a crystal clear vision of how I wish to feel in my relationship. Vibrant, healthy, happy, inspired, trusting. The simple yet powerful self-hypnosis techniques she taught me can take me to this place whenever and wherever I am. I'd recommend Melissa to anyone battling worry, anxiety, or sadness over what their partner is doing in their relationship. She has an extraordinary way of helping you to flip the script and re-wire unhelpful thought patterns. What surprised me the most about Melissa's self-hypnosis techniques was the feeling in my body when my stomach usually churned from anxiousness. Peace, lightness in my belly, softness in my face. It's a feeling I can create anytime, anywhere, regardless of what my partner might or might not be doing." — E, Waikato

  • "Every time I speak to Melissa, I can breathe again. When I feel like I’m stuck in an unbearable, unsolvable situation with no way out, she helps me see what I can’t see, and then guides me through deciding on my next action. I leave every conversation with clarity and relief. I’ve had a lot of therapists and coaches before, but no one has ever matched the support I receive from her. I can’t thank her enough." — J, NSW

  • "I was surprised at how easy it was to discuss my emotions honestly with you and analyse situations openly. Going through these together and breaking them into manageable experiences has been invaluable. Tapping into my unconscious mind to redirect and control how I react to aggravations or potential hostile confrontations is helping me in my family, work and life in general, which I appreciate more than I can articulate. The ease and pleasure of working with you! Always so welcoming and personable, but also able to keep us on track. After every meeting, I felt happy knowing I gained a unique skill and perspective. I highly recommend working with Mel to improve and strengthen any relationships in your life." — J, Auckland

  • "I had been down the path of Therapy before, and it wasn't what I was looking for. I already had some skills. It was more about being the best me I could be, getting beyond baseline, gaining more strategies, and just having someone help put things into an order I couldn't. Learning CBT, discussing how the brain works, and even sharing some holistic views with you—everything came in. It was great because I could pick what fit me. The best thing? The feeling that someone knows me. It's the moment when I can let go, trust, and fully immerse myself in it, and the relationship piece resonates on a different level. My most significant learning was that my feelings are mine - I'm proud that I can care for myself emotionally, which has hugely impacted my life, even with other family members. Nothing has changed visually. It's about how much calmer I feel. Things that were typically quite anxiety-provoking don't rile me now. And what surprised me was how close we got, how well we got along, and how comfortable I got talking about everything. I recommend you to women in their 30s/40s, people with kids when life is busy, and people with a drive to make a difference. We haven't even had to bring my husband in, and he's been quite happy about that! After our first chat, I realised it had nothing to do with our marriage; it was about my life and me. It's not how I thought it would happen." — K, Waikato

  • "I felt I'd gone a long time by myself, and it was time for some help to let go of past issues around being the 'enabler' and consequent built-up resentment. I knew there was more that I needed to explore around love, and I needed to open up emotionally. I couldn't do that in the same way with my bro-mates. They were telling me to give up, but it took me a long time to find my mate, and she's great, so it was worth the effort. If we hadn't done the work, it would still feel broken. You really challenged me on my ideas of right and wrong. My ideas were mashed up; in fact, they were just my thoughts wreaking havoc. It was fun; you and I had lots of laughs, and I felt very comfortable. You have your own stories, and they are hilarious. They resonated with me.  I recommend you to anyone with doubts about their relationship or themselves; your positivity and attitude will help lift people up. I feel more confident now, slowed down, and much more mindful, but I've also let go of what others think of me. I think people don't realise how valuable a coach is; the whole experience of questioning the status quo was life-changing." — R, Auckland

  • "Honestly? It felt insurmountable. Like I wasn't going to get through it. But also, did it even deserve the air time? I was fu*ked up; that's how I was. I remember thinking, why are we even talking about this? Shouldn't we be talking about something important? Before, I'd spiral—ruminating until I felt worse and worse. Now? I still feel sh*t sometimes, but I pause and ask myself—why am I choosing this? I don't always stop thinking about it completely, but I bring awareness to it. And that changes everything. It was confronting. Hard. Vulnerable. Saying some of that stuff out loud? Embarrassing as hell. But here's the thing—that was also the best part. Because once you hear the thoughts in your head, you realise that's not who I am. I showed up for this. I never stick things through; I always find an excuse not to. But this time? I didn't. That says a lot. Then a childhood friend phoned and asked, please help me?—Man, I was fu*king humbled. And it was awesome." — R, Canterbury

  • "I was most concerned that we were friends beforehand. I was scared to lay it all out there—afraid of what I'd discover about myself once everything was on the table. Therapy didn't feel like the right path for me. I wanted to move forward, not sit in the past. And I had the belief that someone else could make me happy. It's me. I make me happy. I realised that being self-centred (in the best way) is beautiful. I control my reality—it has nothing to do with anyone else. Digging deep into how one tiny thought shaped many of my actions, I found it was wild. My mind was a mess, and I didn't even realise it. But once we unravelled it? Everything shifted. Whenever someone triggers me, it reflects something I want to look at. That realisation changed everything. I have a choice—I can stand in my power or react the way I always have. I loved it. I love mindset work and becoming a better human. It wasn't easy—being held accountable was hard—but you didn't let me off the hook, and I needed that. I finally have the tools to understand my mind, step into my power, and be the best version of myself. I could've wasted years stuck in the same cycle, but now I no longer have to struggle. And I see (my husband) from a completely different perspective. Game-changer." — E, Auckland

  • "Will it work? Will it be a waste of money? These were my biggest hesitations before starting, But now I can confidently say—it was worth every bit. Realising it was never about him—it was about me. Initially, it was all "he said this, he did that," and you just kept guiding me back to myself, but I resisted—it's not me!—but, wow, it was, in the best, most powerful way, I started to think - I don't have to be this version of myself forever; things that used to irritate me. They don't have to. The space I've created has changed everything. It's been so freeing. I've said things I've never told anyone else. Your calm, open nature made it easy—I never felt judged, embarrassed, or guilty. It just flowed. We're actually in a better place now. We're connecting. We understand each other. We're intimate. We're paying attention to our marriage instead of just existing as flatmates. Thank you for helping us." — C, Bay of Plenty

  • “When I started, I was completely stuck—frustrated by how to handle things in my relationship, unsure how to say what I felt without making things worse. I didn’t expect astrology to help as much as it did, but it gave me a language for parts I hadn’t fully understood—like the clingy ‘mermaid’ part of me that just wanted to feel safe. The biggest shift? I learned how to bring things to the table without shutting down. I started expressing myself in ways that made me feel stronger and closer to my partner. Even small things—like crafting one honest text—felt like breakthroughs. I feel more mature, balanced, and connected to who I am. If you’re stuck, unsure, or just craving a space to understand yourself and your relationship—this is it. It changed everything for me.” — S, Hawkes Bay.

  • "When I first started Coaching, I was full of doubts. I kept thinking, 'Is this going to work?' I was investing my time and money and needed to see that it would help me grow and become a better version of myself. I felt stuck then and knew I wasn't in a good place. After six months, I'm proud of how far I've come. I can handle situations that would've overwhelmed me before, and I've learned to manage my emotions in a way I never thought possible. One of my most significant breakthroughs was learning to sit with those difficult emotions, like frustration, without letting them control me. I used to get panicked when things got busy at work, but now, I can be in the middle of the chaos and still feel centered. The hardest part was being open and vulnerable—at first, it felt like pulling teeth. But once I did, I started seeing how much I could change and how much I'd been holding onto. Even when I felt like I wasn't making progress, I was. It just clicked one week, and everything shifted. Coaching has been one of the best decisions I've made. It gave me the skills to face challenges more confidently and clearly and helped me become a better version of myself. I can't imagine where I'd be without it." — A, Canterbury

  • When I first started Coaching, I was nervous. I knew it might bring up things I'd buried for a long time—and it did. But what surprised me was how it didn't feel confrontational. It didn't threaten my relationship. I liked that I had space to talk freely without pressure and deal with things in my own time. The biggest shift for me? Realizing I wasn't out of control, I felt like I was. Coaching helped me see that, and slowly, I've started taking that sense of control back. I'm proud of that. I was also surprised by how little I had applied what I already knew. I coach people at work and help them take ownership, but I hadn't been doing that in my own life. I'd kept my professional and personal worlds separate, but now I see I can bring those skills home, too. The hardest part? Sitting with my feelings. I'd never done that before—not really. I glossed over things, especially the more complicated stuff like intimacy. But Coaching helped me go deeper, not just look at the surface. It was uncomfortable, sure, but also powerful. Now, I think about how things feel. And that's changing how I live. I'm genuinely enjoying my life more. Things aren't perfect, but we've got the tools, which gives me confidence in whatever comes next." — J, Bay of Plenty

  • "When I first came to you, I was scared, closed off, and stuck in a cycle of emotions I didn't know how to deal with. Coaching felt like a last hope. I was always so focused on everyone else—what they said and did—and I couldn't find myself in it. But deep down, I had this intuition you'd be able to help. And you did. You coached me through an entire relationship. I went from fearing love and not knowing how to speak up to be in a deep, connected relationship where I could be vulnerable, set boundaries, and feel seen. We're moving in together now—and it wasn't some love-at-first-sight fairytale. I chose to get to know him, and the love grew. You helped rewire my brain. I stopped believing I didn't have time for myself or didn't deserve to feel better. I trusted you completely, and your voice still lives in my head in the best way. Coaching didn't just help me feel good—it helped me stay that way. It becomes part of who you are. Coaching is worth more than anything material. It's been completely life-changing. Honestly? You're better than a matchmaker. You're a transformer." — V, Waikato

  • "I wasn't sure what I was walking into. I feared it might be all hocus pocus—or that we'd scratch at the surface and not get anywhere, or worse, dig up stuff I didn't like about myself. But I can honestly say what I found instead was something that's helped me in ways I didn't expect. The emotional management tools I've gained have been massive—not just for my mental health but for my family's wellbeing, too. The biggest win? Feeling closer to my son. That was the goal from day one, and I didn't think we'd get here this way. What surprised me most was how doable it all became. Once we got into it, it wasn't this giant mountain I'd imagined—it was small, simple changes that made a big impact. You still have to want it. It's confronting. As men, we're not taught to talk about this stuff. But if you're willing to show up, the payoff is real. I'm walking away feeling more in control, more connected—and that's not something you can put a price on." — D, Auckland